When Your Relationships Break

Has someone ever done something or said something that hurt you deeply? When you brought it to that person’s attention, he said something like this: “well, I’m sorry but…” and then proceeded to throw more words at you in an effort to explain why he did what he did?

Sin is not ended by multiplying words, but the prudent hold their tongues. (Proverbs 10:19 NIV)

All too often when we offend someone we want to explain our point. We are quick to “multiply our words” in an effort to make the other person understand why we hurt him/her or what we meant when we hurt him/her. The bottom line is: you hurt someone else. He doesn’t care why and what you were thinking. This passage makes it clear that if you keep talking sin will not end and restoration is not possible. There are two things you need to do in order to be restored and to heal that broken relationship:

1. Apologize. Simply and sincerely say, “I’m sorry.”
2. Shut up. Don’t say anything else. Resist the urge to explain your side and why you did what you did. Trust me, when there is hurt and a broken relationship you do not need to assert your point or defend your honor.

Be prudent. Be silent. Be free.

God help me to hear when someone speaks and then to speak only what they need to hear via Ephesians 4:29. Help me then to close my mouth so that sin will end.

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